Friday, 18 January 2013

Winter has arrived...

Today winter 2013 arrived, the forecasters have been going on about snow all week, we did have a little on Monday morning, Mikey got very excited that it was 'Nowing' but wasn't too impressed when his hand came into contact with some of the white stuff. Hopefully tomorrow we will have slightly longer/more contact with the stuff...

I had a job interview this morning, I tried to be enthusiastic and excited, but it was tough when I got no reaction from one of the interviewers. The more I tried to involve her etc the less feedback/reaction I got. I haven't had any feedback from them yet, but I have decided not to think about it anymore and enjoy my weekend with my family, they are the important people in my life right now.

Mikey's speech therapy is continuing, so far we have had 2 sessions and I have noticed a major reduction in tantrums since we started. He must feel he can communicate with us more easily so doesn't need to yell, scream and kick out so much! He has been a really good boy this week and I am seriously impressed, he has been moved around to various people while I've been trying to see Dr's, register with agencies and go for interviews - and he has just accepted it without any problems or worse. Hopefully we are on the way to 'produce' a happy, well adjusted little boy - which is my aim right now!

This evening the BBC encouraged the typical English panic over the few flakes of snow we can expect. Fiona Bruce advised we mat get 'up to 25cm' in seriously shocked and hushed tones...a friend has posted a photo of snow along a road in Norway, the snow is higher than a coach parked on the road, and the BBC are worried about 25cm....You would have though that seeing as we have had snow each winter since 2009 we would have learnt how to deal with the stuff, the usual English attitude of ignore it and it might not happen really isn't going work or help us deal with what is starting to become our regular winter weather!!

This is a tad shorter than I intended...we saw Les Mis last night and I didn't get to sleep early enough. The film was amazing, and Anne Hathaway really deserves an Oscar. She is only on screen for about 15 minutes in the whole film, but when she started singing 'I Dreamed a Dream' I had tears streaming down my face and there was no way I could stop them, I did manage to pull myself together until the end of the film, than the challenge was not to sob. I really want to see it again, so it will be on my Amazon Wish List asap!!!

Saturday, 5 January 2013

Can we start again?

So far 2013 has not been exactly fun or successful. New Years Eve and the 1st were both OK and I loved the fireworks from London and the look back over everything that has happened last year was suitably emotional and I was happy snuffling to myself whilst downing my sparkling Grape Juice...considering the number of bottles of the alcoholic stuff we have I do wish my other half liked it as I probably could do a bottle on my own, but the following day I would be in hibernation threatening death to anyone making a noise!

On the 2nd Mikey was back with Debbie and after I took him up there the decision was made to take the tree etc down. I started with Andy's help to get the lights off and then started trying to take everything else off in some kind of sensible order! I was fine with the stuff at the top, but bending down to the bottom was leaving me feeling a tad dizzy for some reason (and I didn't have the option of blaming a  hangover) Between us the tree was undressed and dismantled and 'normal' ornaments retrieved and the Christmas ones carefully packed away. Once that we done I headed for Sainsbury's to get a few things we wanted/needed.

As I drove there my head was spinning a bit, I just assumed I was getting hungry as it was after 11 and I'd missed out on breakfast as usual! I parked the car not too far from the entrance, as Mikey wasn't with me I was around the front, not in the parent/child spaces - a lucky move as it turned out! I went across a zebra grossing and the dizzy feeling started as I was nearly across, I could see the bollards on the other side and was aiming for one of those to grab onto to stay upright. As I thought I had got to one I reached out for it as it all went dark and I ended up on my hands and knees - feeling decidedly wobbly and rather sick, seasickness has nothing on the feeling I was experiencing right then. The next thing was a very helpful Store assistant was helping me up and insisting I sit down for a while to recover... Heaven only knows what sort of state I looked as the entrance was at that point was whizzing around my head - or at least that is how it looked to me! I would like to point out that I had asked Andy to go with me, something I don't usually do, but he was too busy.  One of the supervisors appeared and asked if I wanted an ambulance...by that time I'd got to the 'feeling bloody stupid' state and the last thing I wanted was to spend hours in A&E for a couple of bruises. So I thanked her and then decided a trolley should help keep me upright so headed into the store as Andy would still need lunch and milk etc. Luckily I had made a list for once, so I managed to get everything I wanted plus a Disney Junior comic plus a couple more cars (that were in the sale) for a certain young man. My luck continued at the self checkout as it decided to be as contrary as possible and I ended up with my own employee convincing the machine to work!

I had sent Andy a message telling him what had happened, and I was lucky that the roads home were fairly quiet as by the time I got home my head was spinning, he appeared shortly after I had parked (I am so pleased my space is straight ahead as you drive into the car park) and carried the bags in, so I just limped after him with a decidedly painful gait. My right knee felt worse so I went up stairs to check out the damage. I had stuck a pair of trousers on so at least my knees were protected as if I'd cut them getting them to stop now is quite a job thanks to the blood thinning drugs I'm on, but both knees were swelling up nicely and various other parts were throbbing and not feeling how I thought they should! since then I've found that my right elbow and the bottom joints of the fingers on my right hand are all rather bruised and painful and the base of my left thumb is also a little tender...this morning my knees still look extremely bruised, than goodness for the good old fall back of thick black tights! Mikey has also decided that the best way to make Mummy feel better is to hug her around her knees, very sweet - but it does have the effect of almost putting me into orbit with the pain, but he does mean well and it is very cute!!

Yesterday was another bad day...it started up with a rather upset stomach and ended with a phone interview where I feel they decided I'm likely to go off and have another baby...Stupidly I told them my date of birth when they asked - which I believe is actually an illegal question to ask a female candidate.

So based on 2013 so far I would like to stop and either start again...or maybe skip 2013 and move straight onto 2014. 

Tuesday, 1 January 2013

2013

I must be getting older...the years are whizzing past far too quickly now, my baby is 3 in 6 months time, how did that happen (I have enjoyed making the most of loads of cuddles over Christmas, he normally is far to busy to bother cuddling Mummy)

New Years Eve was very quiet for us - probably a good thing as I have a lovely cough and my voice seems to be playing hide and seek. My first resolution is to feel 'normal' again, whatever normal turns out to be for me!! Mikey went u to bed at his normal time but didn't appear to be in any real sleep ready mood! He kept filling his cot with everything he could reach and claimed at one point that his football book (complete with sound effects) was essential to his going to sleep! I thin he was asleep by 10 (ish) but woke up this morning full of beans! Tomorrow he goes back to Debbie, it is going to seem very odd not to have him around.

Andy is still off tomorrow so I have been advised the decorations are coming down. I always hate this as it seems far too dark and depressing without them. I keep threatening to put some fairy lights somewhere in here to help keep my spirits up and right now it is really tempting...

Next week Mikey starts his speech therapy, his speech has improved but he has just come out with quite a long statement in 'Mikey' and I honestly don't have a clue what he has said, but it does sound like it all means something important - in fact you can tell when he is saying something really important as it gets repeated over and over. He must be getting rather frustrated at Mummy's inability to understand what he wants or needs and respond as he would like.

The Christmas tree has more or less survived, there are a few decorations that caught his imagination, but eventually he learnt to leave them on the tree, I'll have to have a hunt for some of the hangers as the decorations didn't always go back on the hangers!! Next year I would love a real tree..but no doubt that won't be allowed :(

It is safe to say that the youngest Zerfahs has loved Christmas, he mastered parcel opening with ease, OK - not always his parcels, but he loved it! I think he also enjoyed seeing Grandparents from both sides - he wasn't always sure which ones we were talking about, but once he was on the way he quickly worked it all out!! He has also face timed his family who were visiting Mickey in Florida and chatted with various people on the phone. My baby is growing up too fast!!

Tuesday, 18 December 2012

If you are looking for a new hobby or recreational activity, make sure it is a creative activity that you can pursue without spending yourself silly. You have some wonderfully creative aspects right now, but you are drawn to pricey, shiny things and that could cost a lot.

So it appears I need a new, creative yet cheap new hobby...everything I've considered trying in the past would be fairly expensive just to set up to start, I still have some cross stitch kits but I need a  lamp with a daylight bulb just to sort out and use the right colours... so any bright ideas, please let me know!!

Mikey and I have had a pretty good week so far (OK, I know it's only Tuesday!) But today has been totally tantrum free and Mikey has been quite adorable. And he has only redecorated the tree a couple of times and he is starting to put things back on the tree... We are still having fun getting him to eat though. On Sunday we went to my Sisters for Christmas Lunch (as they are heading Stateside at the end of this week) and Mikey really was not in an eating mood, stupidly I tried to push a bit and he simply grabbed a wine glass and threw it on the tiled floor! It didn't bounce...thankfully it was an Ikea special rather then crystal or anything like that.

Job hunting is really getting me down now...I'm still angry that I got the system at my last place of employment working so well. I did exactly what they wanted but not with the American Ledger as they simply didn't let me get my hands on it. If I had been given the chance to work on it I could have got that sorted and the overdue debt into a much more manageable state and kept a job I enjoyed. Instead I am now getting the 'You would get bored, you're over qualified and we're not even going to bother replying other than to tell you that you have not been successful at this time' It is getting extremely disheartening and I have no idea what to do right now (other than curl up in bed and cry, hoping the world will leave me alone) 

I'm also not feeling ready for Christmas yet, usually by now I'm feeling excited and looking forward to the 'big day' but I'm not feeling anything at all. I've tried watching Christmas films, listening to Christmas Music but nothing seems to be working. Maybe I'm trying too hard as this is the first Christmas Mikey has really been getting involved in, I doubt he'll remember this but I want it to be perfect for him... He is going to have to come food shopping with me on Thursday, this is when I'm going to hope that the lack of tantrums continues!! Provided I actually manage to find a parking space there of course... I had done the shopping on line, but I can't us nectar points there and having been saving them up I'd prefer to use them towards the Christmas food! I'm also nipping into Waitrose as they sent me a voucher to use with my 'My Waitrose' card - right now I'm taking all the help I'm sent!

Mikey has been getting really engrossed in the Early Learning Centre catalogue! He gets totally over excited and he ends up jumping up and down like a total lunatic, usually on my foot so there is a good chance I'll be on crutches by the time we get to Christmas...if I am they are going to get decorated!!! But he's only mastered jumping recently so takes every opportunity he can to demonstrate!!! I'm still trying to sell some of his younger aged toys, but getting nowhere fast...maybe I'll send them to the next NCT sale...but from what I've heard we are going to need quite a bit of space for everything that Father Christmas will deliver on the night of the 24th!!


Thursday, 13 December 2012

Mid December Blues

I am feeling a tad down right now and I'm having a bit of an issue picking up the Christmas 'Buzz' But we do now have a tree (which I really missed last year) and Mikey is having a lovely time trying to blow the lights out! And as we have twinkly lights he thinks he's managed it on many occasions!! He has now lost interest in removing decorations and tinsel, much to Andy's relief!!

We tried to sort of kick start Christmas on Sunday and were planning on taking Mikey to Bybrook Barn to visit Father Christmas. Inside the centre it was very christmassy but there was no sign of the big man. I found an assistant who told me he was outside. As we walked to the door there was a sign to the 'Santa Fe land train' as we walked out it arrived as was a small tractor disguised as a train engine with a small coach with visitors and Captain Hook inside. At this point Mikey freaked out, there was no point trying to get him onto the train so we walked down the side of a rather haphazard looking shed. As we walked past a door back into the centre Mikey pushed me inside and told me clearly 'Not Now' so we left! I really don't want him to be scared of Father Christmas and miss out on the tradition of leaving a mince pie and carrot out on Christmas Eve. I did it for years and I'd like him to follow suit. We have now booked him into Dobbies for next Friday to visit the Big Man there with Mummy and Daddy, hopefully they don't have a noisy train!!

It has also been fun recently with Mikey hitting the 'terrible twos' in a big way! Last week we had a major melt down just because Daddy left the Outlet Centre without him (we'd met him there to go round Hamleys) and at the moment simply saying no to him has the same effect. We also got it a few times today when a programme finished before he was ready for it to end. Personally I am losing the will to live with an endless rotation of Thomas and Friends, Fireman Sam and Roary the Racing Car. I am also keeping all presents well hidden at the moment as I'm not sure he could resist them since he has now learnt how to open presents, whoever they are really for!

My sister has now moved into her dream house, I've only seen the estate agents photos so far but apparently it is big enough for Mikey to drive his car around the ground floor... everyone had better protect their ankles as  I'm not sure how in control of the vehicle he is so far...

Wednesday, 5 December 2012

Toddler Mood Swings

http://siplumb.wordpress.com/2012/12/02/25/

Just read this and it was scary how much I could identify with it...Right now I'm working hard to keep upbeat and positive, mainly for Mikey's sake if I'm honest - he is a wonderful reason most of the time that keeps me going.

I was doing well until this evening. I had arranged with Andy to meet him at the outlet centre so we could take Mikey to Hamley's to see if we could find anything else for Christmas for him. When I picked him up he had a mini tantrum as I tried to get him into the car, which was calmed down by telling him we were going to meet Daddy - although as we arrived he was asking for Nanny and Grandad!! He wasn't impressed that I put him in his pushchair but cheered u as he saw Daddy and he had a good look around (The Weeble Yellow School Bus certainly grabbed his attention) But as time went on he lost interest and started screaming so I made a hasty exit as the screaming volume and intensity was increasing far too quickly. Daddy walked part of the way back to my car but as he left the volume went up even more and as I tried to get him out of the chair he went crazy, screaming and Kicking whilst refusing to bend to fit into his chair. Once I had almost got him in he threw himself sideways to fall out of the chair and found he can just about stand up straight on the back seat. When I went to the other side he moved to stand in the middle and when I tried to touch him screamed even more.

Eventually I convinced him that if he let me put him in his chair we could get home and then he'd see Daddy again. As I tried to get him into his seat again he did the rigid thing again and started screaming for help. At this point an older woman walked back to her car which was parked nose to nose with mine. At this point he decided that he needed to breath so I heard her comment to her companions that I must be a terrible mother as I couldn't even get my child into his car seat. I was nearly in tears by this point and Mikey again threw himself out of his seat and returned to his position in the middle of the back seat and told me he wasn't using his seat. At this point I got into the car and calmly explained that Mummy is not allowed to drive the car if he isn't in his seat.  Eventually he agreed to let me strap him in safely and we arrived home to find he'd dropped the thing with the most importance to him...his dummy, lucky for him Daddy went out and found it. And he did eventually say sorry and give me a hug - but he also said sorry to Daddy...guess I know now where my  place is in his list of priorities...certainly below his dummy.

Saturday, 1 December 2012

Endings...and beginnings

My horoscope today:

You need to stretch out and relax today. Don't let your work-related worries or a family problem get under your skin. You may find that a little time alone with some good music and some comfort food could work wonders on your mood and sense of wellness.

So all I need is to put my feet up, decide what is good music for today and find some comfort food...Might just charge up my i-pod and stick it on shuffle and I'm sure there must be a comfort food stash somewhere in the house - if there isn't the tub of celebrations may not last much longer!!

Poor Mikey still has a streaming cold and a cough. Last night he was having so much trouble breathing it sounded like whooping cough, but he has had 3 lots of immunisation so far and is due the last one next October. NHS Direct really calmed me down last night, I'd been calm upstairs with Andy, but only really relaxed once I'd read that he is protected. Why couldn't he have got chicken pox so all I need to do is stop him scratching!!!

We've also had day 1 of the new Advent Calendar, Mikey did have one last year, but this year it is altogether more exciting!! This has arrived courtesy of Nanny and Grandad and is a large stocking with 24 pockets on the front and a candy cane to move each day. Mikey had his treat for today, thoroughly enjoyed his chocolate and then asked for the next one!! In his defence Grandad had a magic pocket yesterday that produced a lindt chocolate bear and a kinder bar (like the one he had this morning) so my small pig seemed to think he would get more than one a day!! But I'm sure he will soon work it out and Christmas will become more exciting for him as he does!! We have still to go and see Father Christmas although he did get a letter from the top man this morning - apparently he is about the same height as the elves at the moment! Mikey wasn't to sure what to make of this, and I'm not sure Father Christmas will understand him when he gets going! I know Andy and I don't and end up trying to make the best guess with the odd word we do understand!!

One thing we do know is no presents an go under the tree until Christmas Eve as Mikey has worked out the tearing wrapping paper off is a great occupation, but he doesn't care who they are actually for!! So Santa can't make any early deliveries this year as Mikey can't read labels yet...

Yesterday was a rather strange end to my time at CSL...as Mikey was so poorly I stayed at home with him and then had a diabetes eye test in the afternoon. Not exactly fun as they dilate your pupils with some stuff which stings so far as I'm concerned. 2 photos are taken of each eye - and usually it takes more than 4 attempts for get photos of my eyeballs as my blink reflex is pretty fast. But the technician yesterday threatened to tape my eyes open so I managed to slow my blink down! But after 4 photos she was happy and I was allowed to leave, much to my relief and with a horrible headache which carried on all of yesterday evening, but does seem to have vanished mostly today thank goodness - although my legs doesn't seem to want to do what I want today and the family curse of painful knees has returned again - but I'm leaving the operations and platelet infusions to Nicky and the replacements to Mum!! So my exit from CSL happened on Wednesday with me dashing home just after 3 as Mikey was not a well little boy - and he is the most important person in my life now.

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